Several extreme feelings can bring one to contemplate suicide. Is it the feeling of hopelessness, feeling it's all bad, you can't see the way out? Is it the feeling of revenge which you must express by making them sorry for what they have done, or not done, to you? Is it a feeling of unforgivable guilt that will not release? Is it a problem or sense of loss too great to bear?
Your life is your own, and you are free to live it or to not live it.
Before you decide to live or not to live, you will need to decide what comes next, either in life or in death. Will the feelings that you feel continue after death? Some research indicates that they are continued, or replayed in some way, if they are not resolved now.
It would be safer to realize what is causing you to feel this way.
Programming that you cannot see is creating a lens through which you only see what it allows you to see.
Programming is also attracting, like a magnet, into your field of experience, situations, people and feelings that are unwanted.
Programming determines your opinion of others and your opinion of yourself.
THIS PROGRAMMING CAN BE CHANGED. IT CAN BE REMOVED. YOU CAN CHANGE WHAT YOU DO NOT WANT INTO WHAT YOU DO WANT.
1. Begin listing all that you are blaming others for.
2. Then, write what you are blaming the world for.
3. Then what you are blaming yourself for.
4. When you have done all this listing, as fully as you can, write "I" in front of each item.
You have written down an accurate indication of your inner programming that is causing whatever you are feeling--and all your present experience.
That list does not describe the "you" that you wish to be, does it?
A far more desirable "you" is described by writing the opposite of the items on the list. Write them:
e.g. I am ugly . . . . . . . . I am beautiful
The item on the right is the you that you are without the negative programming.
The negative programming can be changed, and as a direct result, your life will change beyond belief.
See the section on "Belief Changing" at the end.
Your problem is NOT "not enough time". It cannot be, because all the time you experience is the time that you create. You create time by causing or allowing things to change. If nothing and I mean nothing ever changed for you, you would have no concept of time at all. It would all be the same. Nothing would ever happen.
It is your ability to decide upon the rate at which change occurs in relation to yourself that determines whether or not you have enough time.
When you feel that you do not have enough time, have a look at what is happening.
Steps.:
1. Are you trying to stop something from changing?
2. Are you trying to force something to change?
3. Are you allowing someone or something other than you to decide what you do and when you do it?
When you have decided which of these it is
4. Make a decision to take control of just one part of your life that has been controlling you.
5. Do it, and allow the changes that you choose.
Hidden limiting beliefs may be affecting your time.
Beliefs which affect change affect your ability to have time, particularly those that enforce or inhibit change.
So, you see, hours don't really measure time. They are a convenience (sometimes!) for coordinating events, just as latitude and longitude co-ordinate and compare your position on the earth.
Some people are always "getting into trouble".
Ask yourself,
1. What is the worst thing that can happen to me?
Then ask yourself,
2. How will I handle that?
3. Decide whether it is best to run or to fight. Which has more chance of success in the immediate future?
OR If the source of your trouble is approachable
1. Be completely honest, and communicate the whole truth. It is hard for
someone else to argue with the truth, no matter what it is.
Remember, this is FIRST aid, and there are other things that can be done.
1. Find something beautiful, particularly something that is alive--a plant or an animal.
2. Focus all your attention on what you have chosen as beautiful, and really feel the beauty.
When you have felt it as intensely as you can,
3. Imagine that the object is bathed in white, sparkling energy.
4. Imagine that energy flowing to you.
5. Imagine you can create white, sparkling energy, and flow it towards the beautiful thing you are focused on.
This energy exchange which you can feel IS LOVE. You can create it at will, any time you wish.
All the love you feel is the very love that you have created.
It is nice to flow it to others and have it flowed to you but you must be able to create it first.
UNSURE
of the right answer or the right thing to do
1. Form a question that can be answered with a YES or a NO.
2. Relax as completely as you can.
3. Imagine your higher self, or Someone more than you, and ask the question of them. The answer will be there immediately.
4. Accept the answer you get. If you try to think instead of listen to the answer you may not "hear" it. It would be like asking someone a question and then continuing to talk as they answered it.
The answer you get will be the right answer for you at the moment of asking.
4. When you are quite practiced with the yes and no answers, you can try for others.
Remember that common usage of language can be imprecise. Make sure you form your question in such a way that it says what you mean, and it can be precisely answered.
Happiness is not necessarily dependent upon outside happenings.
You can make it dependent upon outside happenings if you choose to do so. Some people choose to do so without being aware that they are making that choice.
1. Think of something that you choose to like or look at something that you could choose to like. It may be a colour, a shape, an object, an emptiness or a fullness of something; anything that pleases you.
2. Now, with your attention on what you have chosen, feel what it would feel like to be happy.
When you are focusing on the things that you do not want or when you are focusing on what you do not have you find it difficult to create the feeling of happiness.
So your unhappiness can be changed by changing that upon which you are focusing and by creating the feeling that you know is happiness.
Your problem is not unhappiness it is the problem of making your life as you choose it to be.
You life can be as you consciously choose when you remove the limiting beliefs which are affecting your choices from the subconscious.
1. Imagine that you are surrounded by containers.
2. Look at the unwanted emotion--like fear, hate, anger, grief, or even something that you are feeling that hasn't a name.
3. Let yourself feel it.
4. Create it, and feel it intensely.
5. Feel it as intensely as you possibly can.
As it reaches maximum intensity it will want to go somewhere.
6. Put it in a container.
7. Look for more of that same unwanted emotion that may still be there, and follow the same process of feeling it intensely and then putting it into a container.
8. As you create the feeling, words, ideas and images may come. Put these into the container too.
9. When it is all put into containers, and you cannot find any more, imagine that you are much bigger than your body. Imagine that you are your own Higher Self, and magically turn all the contents of the containers into bright, joyously sparkling white light. See it sparkle!
10. Pour all that sparkling white light into yourself. Let the brightness and joy fill every cell of your body. If you are taking someone else through this process, you will feel the light.
Do not hurry. Take all the time you like. Enjoy the whole experience to the full.
1. Write down everything that is wrong about that person. Write down what they are being that is wrong, what they are doing that is wrong, and what they are having that is wrong.
2. Next, write down why each thing is wrong. Imagine telling them all this or even pretend they are with you and say it aloud.
3. Now, write down what you think they would write and say about you, if they were the ones doing the above exercise.
4. Write down how it feels for you to be right in relation to all this wrongness.
5. Write down how it feels for the other person to be wrong.
6. Write down how it feels for you to be wrong in relation to this person.
7. Write down how it feels for the other to be right in relation to you.
Have you noticed that there is a difference in viewpoint of what is right and what is wrong? An upset is caused by a difference in viewpoint occurring, after you thought that there was an agreement. Sometimes this upset occurs because the agreement had never actually been there. This can occur when one person tries to force their opinion on another. Sometimes, one or both people might suddenly completely refuse to see that the other is different, (and that it is OK to be different), and sometimes it is the sudden realization of a difference which had not been seen before.
Right and wrong are viewpoints. An upset occurs when there is a sudden change in what one or both had previously seen as similarity or difference.
"One of us must be right," you say. Of course! You are both right. You have different points of view. We are always right until we see for ourselves that something is more right for us.